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When we are tested

When you have ADHD, it feels like you are tested more than other people, and more often than not, we feel like we’ve failed the test. But God’s tests, though, aren’t like tests at school. He already knows the outcome. Our tests are for our improvement, because He loves us.

Recently I had a test that I’ll admit I failed miserably. I won’t go into details, but I was legitimately wronged by someone. However, I acted out of anger and actually put my self in a dangerous situation. Even in my stupidity, though, God kept me safe through it.

I have never acted out of anger and had a positive outcome. The same was true with this time. Hopefully, though I’ve grown and will act more like Christ the next time I’m wronged.

When you find yourself tested, take a deep breath, give it to God, and tell yourself you want to pass this test. Ask him to help you pass the test.

James 1:3 says, “For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.”

Have you been tested lately? How did you do? Feel free to share your experience in the comments.

Here is a great video from the people at The Bible Project on when God tests his people.

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We All Need a Miracle Once in a While

Sorry I haven’t posted in a while. There are some things going on I’d rather keep private. However, I can’t help but feel if it couldn’t have been prevented, it may have been blunted were it not for my ADHD, and I’m in pain.

However, I’m going to cling to Jesus, my Good Shepherd, and pray he’ll make it right.

Romans 8:28 says,

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

Sometimes I just have to cling to this verse even if I don’t see the answer.

This video gave me a lot of encouragement. I hope it does you too.

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Early in the morning? What if I couldn’t sleep?

As an ADHDer, I have trouble getting to sleep on time. As a result, I have trouble waking up early enough to get to work on time much less have a decent devotional. It used to bother me a lot that I was having my devotional at night rather than first thing in the morning. One night many years ago, I expressed my frustration that I wasn’t having a devotional first thing in the morning to a mentor. She looked at me funny and said, “why not just have it in the evening?”

That blew my mind! I thought that the best time to have a devotional was first thing in the morning, and was feeling guilty about having it at night. After all, there are plenty of Bible verses about rising up early. In fact, just doing some research for this devotional, I came across a website imploring us to rise up early, and giving a lot of reasons to feel guilty if you don’t get up early to spend time with God.

However, I would argue that the verses that talk about rising early are more descriptive than they are prescriptive. Yes, Jesus often rose early, but does that make it a sin for us to have our devotionals at night if we have trouble sleeping?

I’ve said before, Ecclesiastes is one of my favorite books of the Bible. Here’s a gem:

Ecclesiastes: 11:4
Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest. (NLT)

In other words, if we always wait for the perfect time to do something, we’ll never get around to doing it. I think that’s especially true of ADHDers with our propensity to procrastinate. It’s more important to have a devotional regularly than it is to have one in the morning. When the urge comes to spend time with the Lord, if you can, do it then!

What else have you felt guilty about when you don’t need to? Do you feel pressure to do something from someone else’s legalism (or even good intention)? Pray about whether it’s true conviction from the Holy Spirit or pressure you’re feeling from an artificial rule from someone else.

And if you’re still feeling bad about having a devotional at night, read this one:

Psalm 63:6
I lie awake thinking of you, meditating on you through the night. (NLT)

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Looking Straight Ahead

Distractions are all around us, especially for ADHDers. We are distracted by our phones, YouTube or TikToc videos, or even that sock that just doesn’t feel right.

Personally, I feel like there’s a busy part of my brain that craves input, and looking for that input can keep me from attending to my tasks. Sometime

Often I find that I have to physically remove all the distractions from my office. I close the door and turn off the music. I do not keep my phone in my office. Ever. The busy part of my brain hates the silence…so much so that it starts looking for input from anything. If the only thing available for input is my task, then it gets the input from my task.

This reminds me of Proverbs 4:24-36 (NLT)

Look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you. Mark out a straight path for your feet; stay on the safe path.

Not only do we get distracted from our tasks, we can get distracted from our relationship with Christ. What is distracting you right now? Sometimes we need to set something aside, even if it just for a short time, to put all our attention on God.

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No New Year’s Resolutions this Year

No New Year resolutions this year. Instead, I’m doing a plan. Plans are achievable, measurable, and have a due date. For me, I’m going to lose 1 pound a week for 30 weeks by keeping my total caloric intake to 1800 calories a day. I’m going to do that by keeping track of my calories in My Fitness App.

All of that external input, including seeing your calories in the app, recording your weight, using photographs of your weight loss (which no one but me, my wife, and God will ever see), are very important motivators to the ADHD brain. We need all that stimulus to keep our interest in our goals.

Also, for one more motivation, I’m going to figure out a reward to give myself, both little ones for losing a pound each week, and one large one for attaining my goal. Rewards are also an important motivator for the ADHD brain. It gives us something to look forward to and keeps our interest in our goals.

I believe everybody, especially ADHDers are hard-wired to be motivated by rewards. Even God will give us a reward in heaven for what we did and didn’t do (1 Cor 3:13-14 and many other verses).

A reward is external to the benefits of meeting a goal. Benefits of losing weight are lowering blood pressure, having more energy, and looking better in your summer clothes. A reward is buying yourself that dress or suit you’ve been looking at (probably best not to reward yourself with a chocolate binge).

There’s nothing wrong with rewarding yourself with meeting your goals. This may feel weird if you’ve grown up with authority figures who believed that an appropriate reward is to not get punished. But that is a horrible motivator, especially if you have ADHD.

So this year, do away with vague resolutions and give yourself some ADHD friendly goals.

Have an awesome and blessed new year.

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New year, new start!

Image of man leaping in front of a sunrise

On January 1, I began my annual attempt to read through the Bible in a year. This is something I fail at more often than not. But nevertheless, I try every year even if the previous year was unsuccessful. So why do I keep trying? Because it’s a new year. A new opportunity.

If you have ADD/ADHD  you probably feel like your past is riddle with failures. I know I do. The great news is that whatever your failures are, they are in your past and covered by the grace of God. Let’s leave the past where it belongs. Behind us. Let’s go forward.

Lamentations 3:22-23

The faithful love of the lord never ends! His mercies never cease.
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reat is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning. (NLT)

1 John 1:8

If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth.
But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. (NLT)

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Focusing on God more than on your problems

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Lately, it seems that my mind has been overly focused on my ADHD. I know, that sounds ironic. Anyway, if you any sort of problem, whether it be ADHD, depression, or chronic halitosis, the temptation is to dwell on that problem. We dwell on how to fix it, how it affects us, or how to work around it. We read self-help books and web sites about the problem. We learn about our problem on Wikipedia. We view videos about our problem on YouTube. In other words, when we have a problem such as ADHD, it can become the thing we think about most. But there’s a problem with that.

God wants first on our mind. He wants us to have him in our thoughts first and foremost. And even though He deserves to be first in our thoughts, that’s not the only reason he wants to be there. It’s because as we dwell on Him, He changes us. As we put him first, he takes care of our needs.

Matthew 6:33

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (NLT)

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