ADHD, Disappointment, Forgiveness, Mercy, Regret

When you can’t take it back

Person feeling shame
There are some things you can’t take back–a word spoken in anger, an impulsive action, the consequence of procrastination. No matter how much we apologize, no matter how many reparations we make, we have many debts we simply cannot repay. What’s worse, we ADHDers are more prone to flashes of anger, slips of the tongue, and impulsive actions. We tend to do or say things we later regret more than other people do.

So what do we do when we can’t take it back?

Sometimes, the only thing we can do is run straight into the arms of God. Even so-called minor sins pile debts on ourselves we cannot repay. That’s why we must rely on the redemption that Christ gave us on the cross. God’s grace is big enough to cover our deepest sins and regrets. While there are consequences for our actions, God’s grace is still there in the midst of those consequences. So when you can’t take it back, when you can’t undo it, take it to God and let his grace cover it.

Lamentations 3:22-23 It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. (KJV)

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2 thoughts on “When you can’t take it back”

  1. I would like to find out more about ADHD for my 7 year old grandson I am trying to help my daughter in law because my are getting a divorce and my son is not helping her at all and my grandson is very important to me. Martha Foxworth

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    • samuelrchoy's avatar samuelrchoy says:

      Hi Martha,

      My life has been crazy and difficult this last year, and I haven’t been able to attend to this blog like I wanted to. However, it’s been on my mind a lot lately, and I’m taking that as a prompting from God that maybe it’s time to get back to this. So first, I apologize it’s taken so long to reply. There’s lots of reasons I haven’t been able to pay attention to this blog–some of the reasons are good, some not so good. But, I’m not going to make excuses.

      I hope you have been able to get help and find resources. In case you haven’t, I would encourage your daughter to start with talking to her son’s pediatrician. As for learning about it, start here:

      ADDitude magazine. This place has forums and a lot of great info.
      https://www.additudemag.com/

      I’ll be praying for your son, daughter-in-law, and grandson.

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